conversations about what matters
my work is writing and having conversations with people about what matters. the conversations are one to one and/or in small groups — say 12 or less. for bigger groups, i can give a talk or a reading from my book and/or work in progress and take questions and/or talk with people afterwards.
in a one to one conversation my main task, as i see it, is to listen — and to ask questions, and to share of my own experience and ideas where it seems appropriate.
these conversations (which i refer to as posthumanist conversations because i think we ought to look beyond the possibilities of humanism) have no specific aim or goal but the idea is to make it possible for a person (or people) to speak and to be heard by someone who is authentically listening — and to enable people to think and speak together about things that matter and that are, or can become meaningful by articulating them and by listening to each other.
i am interested in working with people who are interested in change — people who want to find a different way to be, a different way of being in the world — and how, in the process, we may be able to begin to making a difference to the world.
some people i talk with are already finding their way in this process and for them the benefit of such a conversation is more affirming : what they need is a conversation with someone who has been thinking along similar lines or differently, perhaps for a bit longer, who might have additional insights or experiences to offer or for something/someone to push against ☺
some people i work with feel lost, some are broken, others are in despair.
other conversations can be more like therapy. i am a qualified narrative therapist, but i do not apply or enforce any specific rigid method, or wilfully dig through the past. here the work we do together is thinking collectively and collaboratively working through the entanglements, emotions and cognitive turmoil of being human and of being relational.
i don’t do ‘spirituality’ — but i think/feel/believe there is a spiritual crisis and i have a spiritual attitude.
for some people the conversation can be a consolation — i have qualifications in pastoral work and spiritual care from the southern and northern hemispheres, but i am non-aligned, independent and post-theist, which is like atheism only better :)
i also work with and advise people who are thinking about ending their lives.
the conversations are free of dogma, superstition, creed and religion. no one is subject/ed to anything. everyone retains their autonomy and their agency — and sometimes someone gets something, or loses something.
the conversations take place in groups, or one to one — or both — in person or, usualy as a follow up to a face to face conversation, via the internet.
that is not to say you can’t give me money at any time — as much or as little as you like. it’s easy!
although i have many different qualifications and years of experience i don’t sell my labour or time. i don’t provide a service, ‘professional’ or otherwise and the people i work with are not ‘clients’. i have no insurance and i charge no fees. thus there are no costs to the conversations, unless i have to travel and incur expenses.
in the end it’s just two (or more) people talking and thinking together in real time about what matters. what more could anyone want?
if you like reading, what occupies most of my time, apart from thinking, is writing and it might be useful to have some familiarity with my ideas by clicking around this website and/or reading (or listening to) my book (audio version coming soon!).